Monday, January 17, 2011
Everyday is packed with happiness and laughter. Although it may be quite tiring for me at time, but I enjoy the accompany of everyone. Looks like being in good mood brings me more ideas on how to organize a great birthday celebration for my beloved friends! I found out that a lot of people is troubling by love relationships and thus, I feel like writing on relationship topic today.
I was happily randomly viewing other's post and this is the post caught my attention:
No One Can Hurt Your Feelings Unless You Allow Them To. People Hurt You Once... But You Repeatedly Hurt Yourself By Remembering How They Have Hurt You.......It is so true! Whenever someone told me : "It's almost impossible to be friend with your ex again" & "You just don't understand how hurt I am. I will hate him for life", I feel so GOOD! I managed to befriend with my ex again and I know understand they feel after their breakup with their boyfriend. Because I have been through a breakup, I am able to counsel them and they are more willing to listen to my suggestions! It makes me feel so good knowing that I have found relieve and I have putted down the past.
Actually, the solution to this problem is incredibly simple and easy!
Forget and forget! I'm sure a lot people will think that it is easy said than done and I agree to it. But there is also a proverb saying "Where there's will, there's a way".
First, you can start by stopping the cycle of the negative thought. You have to stop thinking about him/her and
do not allow your world to rotate around him/her! Place your attention on a more important issue.
Second, convert your negative thoughts to positive thoughts. We
always learn something out of every relationship and acknowledge the fact that both parties will lead a better life after the breakup.
Lastly, understand that
both parties are responsible for the breakup. Forget the bad memories that has taken place and take in only the good side of the whole experience. We have limited memory so why not take in only the good and valuable memories? In the bible, it says "And whenever you stand praying, if you have anything against anyone, forgive him, that your Father in heaven may also forgive you your trespasses" (Mark 11: 25)
Time is precious, I suggest you to spend your time on most important things rather than spending your time hating someone or dwelling in sorrows. Research has shown that a smile will makes people feel happier. Continue smiling and happy always! :D
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